It seems that where there is friendfinder, there is bound to be a company waiting to help hook them up with other eligible mates. One of the most interesting opportunities available for busy singles is speed dating. The idea is thought to have been created by the Jewish community in New York sometime late in the 1990’s. The concept involves a number of single men and women who typically meet in a bar on a set night and take part in short dates that only last a handful of minutes. By the end of the evening, each of the men and women have had a date with every person in attendance. It can be a really fun night — if done up right. But knowing what to expect beforehand will certainly play to your favor.
You should have a plan of attack when you arrive for your speed-dating affair. Like any date, a little bit of prep time will help ensure you have a fruitful evening out. Some events have very short dates – as little as four minutes apiece. That means you’d better be on the ball if you plan on finding out enough about a person to make a second date worthwhile. Don’t plan on sitting down with a list of questions and running through them. It will scare most of the sane people away and the point of these quick dates isn’t to cram a normal date into such a short period of time. Instead, focus on how you get along with the other person. Pay attention to your conversation. Watch the way they come across. See if you can imagine a longer date with them. In most cases, that’s all you will have time for. If there are a few things that you really want to know, by all means ask, but don’t let your list get in the way of your relationships.
“The secret to speed dating is this: the more people you seduce, the more choice you’ll have when the night comes to an end.”
Relationships are what you’re building with each and every one of the people you sit with. There could be five people at the event or 25. The second you acknowledge another person, your relationship with them begins. It could be over in minutes but that’s not how you need to think. You should go in with the mindset that you’re going to want to marry each and every person you meet. Imagine how that would change the way you approach the date. Knowing that you were going to spend the rest of your life with the person across the table would change conversation a little, wouldn’t it? How you react to one another and how you speak would change. Figuring out the little details can happen over a lifetime. What’s important is to enjoy that moment for all its worth. Your relationships will start on a better foot if you approach them from that angle.
There is a simple secret that you should keep in mind when heading out to a speed-dating event. Speed dating involves two people making a simple choice about each other. Do you or do you not want to go out again? Usually you’ll be armed with notepads where you can scribble down whether or not you’d be interested in seeing that person again. At the end of the event, the organizers collect your sheets. If both you and another person agreed that you’d like to date again then your contact information will be passed on. The secret to speed dating is this: the more people you seduce, the more choice you’ll have when the night comes to an end.
Choice is everything when it comes to speed dating. Imagine what it would be like for the event to have come to a close, only to realize that you should have tried to impress date number 17 a little more because everyone is talking about them and you’re beginning to second guess yourself. The only way to avoid this problem is to turn on the charm. I used the word seduce earlier, and I meant it. Normally seduction comes with some pretty negative connotations, but it doesn’t hurt to think this way. You only have a short time with each date and you’ll want to use it to find out a few things about them but it will be equally important to spend as much time or more trying to make them interested in you.
There are a number of ways to improve your chances of scoring a yes on your dates ticket. You should use every possible way to seduce them. Think of it as practice. It doesn’t matter what they have stuck in their teeth, how bad they’re dressed or how much they go on about their ex. Practice on them! When they’re talking, use body language to get your message across. Always try to smile and nod your head. Even the smallest of movements with your mouth will register and if you look like you’re having a good time, they’ll be compelled to think that they are, too. And always be polite and thank everyone when it’s time to switch seats. By using every avenue available to try and catch their interest, you’re bound to have way more marks in the “yes” column then you can use.
Speed dating is fun and it’s an evening out. It usually costs on average about the price of month’s membership to a dating site, so you won’t break the bank. At the very least it’s a story you can tell your friends about over lunch, and we can all do a lot worse than providing a little good-natured entertainment for our friends!